I am a good man with a good heart, a serious kiss, and a firm hand. I have been a teacher by nature my whole life, even though I have never “taught school” other than when as a graduate student.
In other words, I have a nurturing nature that thrives on providing positive influence for other people, even if negative reinforcement is sometimes required, and desired. In other words, I spoil and spank with equal enthusiasm.
I do not seek a second life where I get to be someone I am not in the outside world. But I do consider my private life to be exactly that, private.
I simply possess a naturally dominant sexual orientation, which is part of who I really am deep down, and not something I put on to make myself feel bigger.
Still, hearing "Yes, Sir." has a certain ring to it, at least in those times when a girl can tell from the context of the conversation and the tone of my voice that it is an appropriate response. And if hearing "You may NOT" results in a visceral response deep inside her that makes her want to be with me even more, all the better.
Whether it be a caress, or a kiss, or something more heated, I like to lead when I dance, and the more a woman responds to being swept off her feet or over my knee, the more I lead her in that direction. When she already has such inclination, I am very good at expanding horizons, while seeing to it her particular sensitivities are always taken into consideration.
It is vital to me that such things are ultimately good for a girl, and make her happier and healthier and more whole, than she might have been without me and my dominant influence in her life.
I am more connected to the inner workings of dominant and submissive sexuality, than the surface ornamentation. For example, with the exception of the occasional little dress, I find black totally overrated, while feminine and pretty without trying too hard shall always be more appealing, attractive and even sexier than a black leather anything.
My own special duality of spirit is strong and healthy, so that I am at once progressive socially but traditional closer to home. I am a romantic idealist, yet a realistic skeptic, and I am very much in touch with my primal core and its appetites, while my more erudite sensibilities know why rules were made and why most of them need respecting.
Even if I tend to be most drawn to women who naturally stir that fiery dragon in her otherwise civilized white knight, to use archetypes, my inner Victorian is made of sterner stuff, and tends to respond to such primal manipulation on her part by manipulating, and at times wresting the balance of power very much into my control, and making it clear to her yet again that a girl who plays with fire often ends up with an extraordinarily radiating backside, by the time she finds herself on her knees before me.
Since I prefer my dominant influence upon others to ultimately be positive and good for them. I can provide a women the man who can sees her at her worst and most imperfect, but loves her no less, yet, at the same time, never invalidates her feelings by trivializing her emotional sensitivities, be that feelings of tenderness or vulnerability, or even guilt and shame. Rather, she would feel appreciated and approved of for being a truly moral being.
I am most attracted to a woman with a strong sense of propriety and relates strongly to penance for those times she is most improper, even if that means having to make up for certain things, perhaps through periods of self-denial, or good works, or suffering though traditional corporal discipline and punishment.
I have used just about every spanking implement you can think of, which a girl growing up in previous eras might have been exposed to by those who most cared for her physical, emotional, moral, and spiritual well-being. But if I use implements at all, they tend toward those domestic items not specifically designed for spanking, like an oval wooden hairbrush, a belt, etc.
But such things are always based on HER sensitivities to such things, emotional and physical. It is all about such things do TO and FOR a girl. And for me, it is really all about the mind, the heart, and the soul, hers and mine. Sometimes just knowing the use of something more than a hand is a possibility can be more than a enough to make a a bad girl take those final steps toward the straight back chair, and take her medicine like a good girl - hopefully happily ever after.
I should add that I have twenty years of considerable experience, but I am not oriented in the scene. It has been private, long-term relationships since early college, as well as some short term connections when seeking the chemistry that leads to deeper intimacy and higher passion.